About Jen Lai - Trauma and CouplesTherapist in Hong Kong

Trauma & Relationship Therapy, Couples therapy, Trauma therapy. HONG KONG/ CHINA and ASIA EMDR / therapy / Trauma therapist / mental health therapist / mental health counsellor/ couples Therapist / relationship Therapist / relationship therapist

Jen Lai is a trained EMDR and trauma therapist in Hong Kong, offering professional mental health therapy and couples therapy to individuals and families across Hong Kong, China, and Asia.

“My journey to becoming a therapist is shaped by more than twenty years of living and working across cultures and professions — from business and healthcare in South Africa to building a life and raising a family in Hong Kong over the past 17 years. As an expat and a parent, I understand firsthand the complexities of the ‘third culture’ experience and the unique emotional pressures that can arise when building a home and family through constant transitions.

My therapeutic work is guided by a core belief: our need for connection is fundamental, yet past experiences can make this connection difficult. I specialise in trauma therapy and couples therapy because I see them as deeply interconnected .Personal healing supports healthier relationships, and secure relationships foster deeper personal healing. This integrated perspective shapes all of my work.

This understanding led me to pursue a Master’s degree in Counselling, transforming my curiosity about people’s stories into a dedicated practice focused on meaningful support, emotional safety, and long-term healing.”

How I Approach Our Work Together

I believe that trust and emotional safety are the foundation of effective therapy. My role is to create a supportive and collaborative space where you can explore your challenges with openness and care.

To provide high-quality, evidence-based therapy, my work is grounded in the following professional training and approaches:

  • Gottman Method Couples Therapy (Level 3)

  • Developmental model - Couples Institute

  • EMDR Trauma Therapy

  • Prepare and Enrich Facilitator (Pre-marital Therapy)

  • Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)

  • Professional Member of Hong Kong Professional Counselling Association (HKPCA) and ACA ( Australian Counselling Association)

Therapy is a collaborative process. It is a privilege to support you in building emotional safety, feeling truly heard, and creating meaningful, lasting change in your life and relationships.